Relationships can be difficult and require a lot of work. Even good, healthy relationships have challenging times. But abusive relationships are different. Intimate Partner Violence is about one partner having power and control over the other partner. The abusive partner uses different types of abuse to gain and maintain that power and control. Abuse can include physical violence, but also monitoring, isolation, extreme jealousy, belittling, sabotaging employment or studies, etc. IPV is common, it can happen to anyone, and can be dangerous.

Where do you draw the line of something being |✔| OK or |X| NOT OK?

‍Keeping someone close updated on plans |✔| OK
Having to do it constantly |X| NOT OK
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Interest levels in certain activities changing from time to time |✔| OK
Never doing anything they normally love |X| NOT OK

Going through a phase of changing their appearance |✔| OK
Making those changes to keep someone else happy |X| NOT OK
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Partner or family occasionally making a clumsy joke |✔| OK
Repeated situations where they're embarrassed or humiliated |X| NOT OK
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Accepting responsibility for mistakes in a relationship |✔| OK
Always believing everything's their fault |X| NOT OK